Reckless Love

Devotion written by me for Women’s group #1

God’s love is Reckless for us!  

Cory Asbury wrote the song “Reckless Love” as an incredible anthem that marvels at the depth of God’s love for us.  In explaining the meaning behind the song, Cory says, “When he uses the phrase, ‘the reckless love of God,’ he is not saying that God Himself is reckless. He is however, saying that the Way He loves us, in many regards, is quite reckless. His love bankrupted heaven for us. His love doesn’t consider Himself first. His love isn’t selfish or self-serving. He doesn’t wonder what He’s going to gain or lose by putting Himself out there. He simply gives Himself away on the off-chance that one of us might look back at Him and offer ourselves in return. 

The recklessness of His love is seen most clearly in this  – He gets Himself hurt over and over and over again. (Because our sin pains His heart)  Yet, He continues to open up and Loves us, no matter what. We as Christians all struggle with this. We have a hard time loving those who hurt us. We often run away from hurt instead of recklessly loving the person who has hurt us. Or we choose not to show love to someone who sees things differently than us.  Is it because chasing after someone to love takes time, energy and can cause more hurt in the process? Probably, but Our God does it anyways!  

His love saw us when we disliked/hated the things of God and when we chose our own ways over His. And with knowing that…God still said, ‘I don’t care if it kills me. I’m laying my heart on the line.”

And guess what?  He will do it again and again! He sees our worth for what it really is. He doesn’t hold onto our actions or the pain that we have caused him in our sins.  He let’s go of all of those things and chases after us.  No matter what, He won’t stop loving Us!

It’s a whole lot easier to “just Love” someone than it is to be “recklessly IN love” with them. As Christians we love with caution. Although, when we pray, we can ask God to change our hearts to love like He does. If we really strive to love recklessly, we would become more like him. We tend to love with conditions. We give consequences to people who hurt us, and we even withhold our love from people, instead of giving it freely.  It has become the norm to love “cautiously” instead of “recklessly.”  God doesn’t ever hold back His love for us. He tears down walls, moves mountains and chases after us at times. More often than not, we don’t even pursue people, let alone chase after those we are called to love.  (people in our family, our friends, our neighbors, orphans, widows and those who seem unloving) We rarely go the extra mile, seek out people that are different than ourselves, or even pray for particular mountains to be moved, so that we can love others with a reckless love.

Parents, just think about it….we would kick some booty for our kids!  We would chase down the enemy and crush everything we could, just to show our love to and for our children.  We have more of a “reckless love” comparison when we think of how we love our children.  But Oh how overwhelming is His love in comparison to how we will ever be capable of loving our children!

His love for us is too much for us to ever comprehend….

Ohhhh if we could Love like that! We should all strive to love people recklessly! People who have hurt us, people who are different than us, and even people who have ran from us or turned their backs on us. Everyone deserves Christs love.  May we have the same grace as God, when we have the opportunity to show His love to others.    

Let the words to this song penetrate into your heart                                                               Click this link and listen to the song  – RECKLESS LOVE -Cory Asbury

  • How can YOU try to love differently?
  • Is there a person/situation in your life that is in serious need of some “Reckless Love”  the kind that won’t give up or turn away…no matter what?

Prayer:

Lord, thank you for the Reckless Love that you have for us. Thank you for loving us despite our failures and our sins. Thank you for your sweet grace, in all of the times that we should have loved someone differently and were unlovable are selves.  I pray that you show us your ways. Teach us to also love recklessly.  Help us to love all people that you place in our lives.  Mold our hearts, enhance our passion, and make clear our pursuits, as we grow in your love for others.  Let people experience and get to know you through the Love that we show them.  Help us to have mercy and grace in the midst of hurts. Give us persistence and strength, that we may not give up easily, on people who need your love.  Use us and show us that through you….We too have the ability to Love Recklessly!

In your name, Amen

Dreams Come True!

Book Released Today

It’s in my hands now!!!! It’s for real! 

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My story can be found  in the section “Blessings in the Midst of Chaos”  (pages 277-294) And my quote was chosen for the back of the book!  Wow! Someone pinch me!  God’s timing is just soooo good!  I’d love to say what an awesome job all of the Authors did, but i know first hand, God was all over them while they were writing.  So all of the acknowledgements go to our Lord and Savior!  

The Editor has changed all of the children(s) names for privacy reasons.

Thank you to Katherine Piper for having a dream to make a difference and allowing the Lord to use her in such an endeavor. It was tedious and i know it had to be a bit crazy communicating with so many different authors from around the world.  She showed such grace as she allowed God to guide her every decision making step along the way.  She has already made a difference!  (To all of us Authors as well)  With this book to encourage adoptive families,  she’ll continue to make a difference for many years to come.  I’ll forever be grateful for her obedience to carry out her vision and for approaching me to share our story.     

Also, a huge thank you to all of my family who helped encourage me to “go for it” when the opportunity to share our 3 adoption stories was presented. I am honored (with 27 other Christian Authors) to be able to encourage Women on their adoption journey’s. May God receive all the glory he deserves, for orchestrating such a beautiful arrangement of heartfelt love and faith shared within the books pages. It is all of our prayer to help fund forever homes for children for many years to come.  And we will, as copies of this book are sold…

Hope for the Adoption Journey is now available on Amazon!

Get your copy here: Hope for the Adoption Story -Amazon Prime

All proceeds from the book go towards helping other families adopt through the Show Hope organization.

Visit Show Hope Organization here

The Following is from the Show Hope website:

This movement began in 2003, when Mary Beth and Steven Curtis Chapman founded Show Hope after having their own eyes and hearts opened to the global orphan crisis.

Since then, Show Hope has worked to holistically approach orphan care, helping children in four key areas:

  • Adoption Aid
  • Care Centers
  • Pre+Post Adoption Support
  • Student Initiatives

Through Adoption Aid grants, Show Hope has helped more than 6,000 children from more than 60 countries, including the U.S. More than 2,500 waiting children with acute medical and special needs have received loving care through Show Hope’s Care Centers in China. Show Hope’s partnership with the Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development at TCU and Empowered to Connect has helped bring hope and healing to children around the world with encouraging, research based teaching in Pre+Post Adoption Support. And Show Hope prepares for the future with our Student Initiatives by educating and empowering the next generation of leaders to effectively care and make a difference in the lives of waiting children.

Book to be Released Soon!

28 True Post-Adoption Stories to Comfort and Encourage

Hope for the Adoption Journey, compiled by Katherine Piper, features the heartrending stories of twenty-eight women from very different circumstances who have personal experience with adopting and fostering children, both domestic and international, of various ages and backgrounds, with a wide range of needs—and who have endured to share their joy.

Are you a mother facing the chaos of adoption in your family?

Do you feel alone and overwhelmed with the struggle of adoption?

Or are you considering adoption and wondering if you can do it?

  
“Adoption can make your heart ache and your head spin, and it can turn things in your family upside down for a while. But the blessings do outweigh the chaos, and every struggle and disappointment too. Remember, you are not alone in this endeavor. There are many others who have been or are in the trenches with you. And God will never leave your side…
Love fiercely as He loves you.”
—Mother of adopted & foster children
(Susan Woodward)

All profits will be used to help prospective adoptive parents bring their children home.

Will be available on Amazon and Kindle, August 2018.

Book

 

Donald Trump Proclaims May as National Foster Care Month

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May is National Foster Care Month, a month set aside to acknowledge foster parents, family members, volunteers, mentors, policymakers, child welfare professionals, and other members of the community who help children and youth in foster care find permanent homes and connections. During National Foster Care Month, we renew our commitment to ensuring a bright future for the more than 430,0001 children and youth in foster care, and we celebrate all those who make a meaningful difference in their lives.

Thank YOU to each and every person who has a role in making a difference in a child’s life!  Together we can change the world. One child at a time.

 

I know first hand the hard work and dedication that goes into being a Foster Parent.  Although May is set aside to bring awareness and to recognize everyone that has a role in the child welfare system…It really isn’t about us.  It’s about all the abused and neglected children in need of love and care.  Not everyone is called to become a Foster Parent, but every single one of us can love, encourage, support and pray for families that are Fostering.  Reach out to those you know who Foster…how can you make a difference?   

 

Research information or learn more by clicking the link below

Child welfare information is available to everyone. Want to learn more?

Read the Presidents proclamation by clinking on the link below

President Donald J. Trump Proclaims May 2018 as National Foster Care Month

 

 

Seven Months With Precious Brothers

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We said yes and opened our home and our hearts once again seven months ago. This time for two little boys that were ages two and three. They are spunky, cautious but loving, stubborn, confused, hurt, and very silly little boys. They are Gods perfect little gifts who just needed a safe and loving place to grow and to heal.  So, like many times before, we said yes!  Yes, even knowing that a transition one day would be unbearably hard and that the loss would eventually hit us.  Yes, knowing that one day all we would have is the memory of them and that we would miss so much.

A lot has been shared in seven months. Our family has made some special memories as we’ve committed to meeting their every need. Loving and caring for them has been difficult at times, but I’m convinced that living out your life’s passion doesn’t happen easily. God always provides the tools and he gives the right resources, but being obedient and taking on big tasks comes with some hard moments and lots of lessons learned.

Together over the last seven months, we experienced the loss of my husbands (Kent’s) two brothers and we faced some hard sad times. We also shared the fun and happy things that are involved with five different holidays together. (Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, Valentines and Easter) It was an added bonus that both of the boys were able to celebrate their Birthdays in “Woodward Style”. (Loud and crazy chaos) They also helped in celebrating six of our family member’s birthdays during that time frame. We helped the youngest as he went through two surgeries and got many of his medical needs met. Both of the boys received emotional and developmental assistance to help with their care. We have practiced our patience over and over again…as we’ve taught them both how to communicate their emotions and deal with built up hurt and anger.

Seven months that may have flew on bye but that will never be forgotten. So many things shared within our family of twelve. Over time and with God’s grace we will heal… and we will learn to be a family of ten again.

There will be so many things I (we) will miss…

I’ll miss there little feet running to the table eager to eat anything served.
I’ll miss the excitement in their eyes when they have done well and are praised.
I’ll miss the silly songs, the little dances and the crazy jokes that make no sense.
I’ll miss reminding them to slow down and chew with their mouths closed.
I’ll miss watching paw patrol and power rangers every chance that they got.
I’ll miss the fits that have brought break through and helped in their healing.
I’ll miss teaching the simple things, like water doesn’t hurt and toilets are to pee in.
I’ll miss dodging action figures, LEGO’s and other toys with every step. 
I’ll miss having little clothes in the laundry and many more miss matched socks.  
I’ll miss reading, singing and talking to them about Jesus.
I’ll miss them taking turns and even arguing over whose turn it is to pray.
I’ll miss watching my other children love and adore them.
I’ll miss hearing them say “Mr. Kent will you hold me?” every night before bed.
I’ll miss them learning new things and watching the joy in completing a new task.
I’ll miss covering them up, giving them kisses and hugs and watching them sleep.  

So much to Miss!!!  But I won’t miss Praying for them. I know that God will continue to meet their needs. He has done it before, He will do it again. He is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow.  His love is sooooooo much greater than ours for them. 

So, when I miss all of these things and much much more…I will do the only thing that has worked many times before. When my heart aches and my head is full of memories…i will do what always brings me peace…I will PRAY! 

Our God will hear…Our God will protect…Our God will answer!

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Adoption Story Two -sneak peek

Shared from Blessings In The Chaos 

McKenzie – Our fourth gift.

Two months after Austin’s adoption was final we received a call from the Department of Social Services to Foster a sibling group of three girls. The girls were two, four and nine years old. There wasn’t much hesitation in us saying yes. It was known by the Department that we would do our best to take in any child that needed to be cared for. We discussed it as a family and prayed before giving them our final answer. From the day they arrived in our home in July 2007, until the day McKenzie’s adoption was final in November 2009 it was a whirl wind of chaos. There were days I felt alone, misunderstood and even miss guided by the Department. It was God alone who gave me the strength to dig deep and move forward. There were many times I prayed for God to reveal the blessings to me. Being a parent to six kids with three of them having additional special needs was emotionally draining. I reminded myself often why we chose to go into Foster Care. I knew that we were making a difference, but I didn’t always see it. Remembering why  we were in the chaos, always gave me the boost I needed to continue on in full force.

McKenzie was the youngest and the frailest. Although she was two years old, she only weighed 17 lbs. and wore size 9-12 month clothing. She had already had her tonsils and adenoids removed. She had suffered from a bowel blockage and was so tiny that it scared me to hold her too tightly. She did not speak when she came. Most of her basic needs were quickly met by her oldest sister who had been her primary care taker.

I would love to say that when termination of the parental rights happened we were relieved and had peace. This would be far from the truth. We were extremely torn, and frustrated with the decisions the Social Workers, Therapist, Lawyers and Judge was making in regards to what they felt was in the best interest of the girls. They made the decision to separate them. At the time, we just couldn’t wrap our heads or our hearts around that decision. It’s awful hard to trust God when you are experiencing great pain.

We have never been the same from the moment the three of them entered our home and our hearts. It wasn’t an easy road, but Kent and I continued to remain obedient with every twist and turn we were faced with.  We understand that we were created with a purpose to love those who may seem unlovable to others. We do not possess or pretend to have the answers. We have no greater option but to seek God daily for guidance in raising all of our children. We look for joy in each moment and have become great at finding the blessings where others may see none. We fill ourselves in God’s presence often. This has allowed us to continue to pour out and into others with every chance that we get. God knew that we would make a great team.

Adoption can make your heart ache, your head spin and can turn things in your family upside down for a while. But the blessings do outweigh the chaos. They even manage to outweigh every struggle and disappointment too. Remember you are not alone in this endeavor. There are many others that have been or are in the trenches with you. And God will never leave your side. Even when you think you are failing and do not see him working, remember he is always working on your behalf. So keep keeping on despite the chaos you may endure and love fiercely as he loves you. Don’t lose hope. For hope will continue to change the world one child at a time.  

This is just a small piece of my second Adoption story in the book I have Co-Authored with many other Christian women. The details of her story and our other two adoptions are shared in length in the book. I am so excited that it is in publishing now.  I cannot wait to encourage others on their adoption journey and to help fund forever homes for others. 

Other Sneak Peeks can be read here:

Telling our story…sneak peek!

Adoption Story One -sneak peek