Blessings in the chaos.

February 13, 2017February 13, 2017 / Susan Woodward / 2 Comments

my favorite thing about being a foster parent_dumas Every Single Child deserves someone to love them and to believe in them. They deserve someone to be their advocate and to give them the resources they need to succeed in life. Every child deserves a forever home!

May God bless all of you that go above and beyond and are involved in Foster Care. You will win some and unfortunately loose many battles. You will rock lonely children to sleep, comfort and reassure those who are afraid, and speak life into young ones lives who have lost hope in themselves.

For all the appointments, meetings, trainings and court hearings…and for every sacrifice and or missed family event or function…I say, Thank you for your love and dedication to the child placed with you!

For every time you’ve questioned what you were doing, or wondered if you were really making a difference, please know…that you are!

For every time you are hurt and for every struggle you persevere through, may you feel Gods comfort and strength to continue on.

In a Foster Care system that is broken in many ways, remember there is a God who can take the broken pieces and make all things whole.

If you feel as if you are alone, know that you are not. There is an army of people who have similar hearts as yours. They get your worries and they can relate to the many frustrations that can come alongside of working with Social Services. So many other people understand the magnitude of the blessings you receive, even in the midst of your chaos.

Thank you! Thank you from the bottom of MY heart❤️

Keep doing what you do! You are making a difference! One child, one family, one situation at a time…You are changing the world!

A Passion Pause

July 19, 2016July 22, 2016 / Susan Woodward

Sometimes we have to convince ourselves that it’s ok to hit PAUSE in the middle of living out our Passion! I’m not one to move in slow motion and I often struggle with pausing in the midst of things. I am grateful i have learned its ok to hit PAUSE.

The passion i have is equally shared with my husband. When God created us for each other, He knew exactly what would break our hearts and make us cry together. He created our passions and knew just how we would work together to fulfill them. I am thankful that we chose to move into the life of Foster Care. It has been a piece of many, in our obedience to Him.

It took time for us to recognize our passion, but after our awakening…He has supplied our every need to move forward. We strive to make a difference…one child of His at a time.

I’m extremely thankful.

Today, I look back on His goodness through each test, trial and phase we have been through as a family. We have received so much insight and growth through each and every situation we have faced. We are more than conqueror’s! I have been pushed in areas I never thought I’d go and used in ways that are of Him Alone!

Excitedly, we have removed the PAUSE that has been in this area of our Passion!

The Foster Care system desperately needs Christian families to share the love of Jesus. To share His love with the hurting child and to the child’s parents. (whenever that connection is available) His love can bring healing and restoration to the child as well as the family. The most important goal is for each one of them to be confident of their eternal future.

We are aware that our family is far from perfect. If the Foster Care system only wanted perfection, there would be no system at all. We learn from every situation we encounter, continuously seeking the Lord for guidance in (all areas) of our life. God has given us much and we cannot help but to share what He has given.

We knew we wouldn’t PAUSE our Passion forever. With that, we also know we will face more test and trials, hurts and painful loss. We will face the same emotions (and maybe some new) that have already been felt over the last 11 years as Foster/Adopt parents. When I reflect back on some of the hardest trials, the memories alone Should Make Me Fearful…but i know…we are NOT slaves to Fear! Our God is GREATER than ALL of our Fears and ALL of our Unknowns.

Gods plan will never fail!

It will forever remain perfect in our imperfect world of abuse and neglect. He will never stop pouring out His love. It pours over and through us in meeting whatever need is presented. It doesn’t make it easy. Doing God’s work is difficult. But He (and His Amazing Love) makes it possible! Fostering truly is the toughest job we’ve ever loved. Some of the healing and progress is never seen. Sometimes it’s a daily struggle to push through whatever mountain we are faced with. But we know that with Him we can do ALL things. He still moves mountains! It is by His strength alone that we overcome each obstacle along the way. We trust Him in the process for each outcome and we pray for wisdom as we embrace each child’s different needs.

As we remove the PAUSE in our Passion we are taking another leap in our faith. We are confident in our provider of all things good.

The PAUSE in our Passion came at the perfect time. We started as birth parents of two, a boy and a girl. Only God knew we’d become parents of an additional two boys and one girl through adoption. We chose to temporarily close our Foster home two years after our last adoption of our teenage son. I was apprehensive at first in doing so. (I didn’t want to stop helping other children because the need is WAY to great) But we knew through seeking God for guidance, that our PAUSE was in His perfect timing. During our families pause, we spent quality time focusing on each moment and on each other. (the good, the bad, the joyful, the painful, the accomplishments big and small) We spent time advocating and seeking out the resources needed to better equip our children and ourselves. At times we were extremely stretched in our faith. I became a pro at praying hard on my knees. And we learned to completely trust His plan when ours was shattered, or His was completely unknown.

The PAUSE in our passion was needed. It’s ok for you to PAUSE in the midst of your passion too. Our PAUSE helped us to retrain, redirect, restore and finally…to refocus. To refocus on the passion He placed in us. In our family.

After eleven years, 22 children in our home, 6 that were transitioned into other forever homes, 1 reunited with her birth family, 3 that completed our hearts and family forever and…a three year PAUSE….our PAUSE has changed…but our Passion has not!

Our license to offer Foster Care has been reinstated. We have transferred to the county in which we live and cannot wait to see what God has in store for us after taking our much needed time. We will be helping with emergency removal care and respite (relief for other foster parents) along with temporary or short term placements.

We are excited to step forward again in our passion. Parenting, Recruiting, Mentoring, Training, Speaking and PRAYING the entire time…that the amazing Love of Jesus transforms lives through us.

God has been right in the midst of our PAUSE. He continues to be in the midst of our future work in the Foster Care System. We continue to be an imperfect family, but we strive to love like Him. We are extremely excited to once again be a part of something much greater than ourselves. We are humbled and honored that He chooses to use us.

Don’t hesitate to PAUSE in the midst of YOUR passion. Seek His direction. Wait patiently….and you too will know when to “push play” again!

Foster Parents~Let Your Love Shine Brightly in 2016!

December 31, 2015December 31, 2015 / Susan Woodward

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I’ve heard your pain, your hurts and your worries and I have felt them myself. Being a Foster parent is not an easy job. As a matter of fact, it’s the toughest job you’ll ever love.

Nobody fully understands what it entails and nor will they ever completely get it…unless of course, they too are given the heart to walk the hard road of fostering for themselves.

These children come in all different fashions when they arrive at our door. They can be any or all of these things when we are finally introduced. (fear filled, fragile, desperate, beaten, neglected, starving, anxious, confused, shaken, hyper, mischievous, hurtful, calm, depressed, etc.) They often face other struggles because of their life circumstances. (Attachment disorders, learning disabilities, sleep disorders, post trauma disorders, fetal alcohol syndrome, severe anxiety, processing disorders, and so on)

We don’t just open our doors and everyone blends perfectly together. We cautiously open our hearts too. And when we do that just right, so many other things start to unfold. We long to really “know them” so we can care for them just right. The unknowns about “who they are” and “what they will be like” brings on our own set of pre-placement anxieties. We wish we had all the important information upfront. And we somehow accept that we may never really know much of anything. (What have they gone through? Will we be all that they need to heal?) So many things matter in how we move forward, yet little is ever answered. We help them transition the best that we can. We set out to love unconditionally and try not to have preconceived expectations. We are on call 24/7. So therefore, we live a life of spontaneity. Organization becomes second nature and we learn quickly to utilize resources when a call comes. We usually over think things, analyze everything, and have only a handful of people (or less) that we can talk to…about everything.

The life of Fostering is a hard one. It’s exhausting emotionally and physically. It is definitely not for all. It makes our hearts ache, our heads spin and can turn things upside down in our families for awhile. But…it is desperately needed! It’s rewards are great! And it is making a difference, one child and one family at time! And in the midst of some crazy days/nights, weeks/months, and sometimes years…as we do what we are called to do…somehow, someway, the blessings manage to outweigh each and every struggle and heartache.

We may not see the progress or healing while they are in our homes, but we claim it for each child and family. We have faith and it outweighs a failing system. We cannot do it by “our power” so we trust an unfailing God and “His power” to do all things. We seek the Lord as we keep pouring out. He fills us daily, so we can keep our focus and move forward with every struggle. We pray His perfect plan unfolds in everyone of our Foster children(s) lives. And sometimes His plan is a forever home through adoption.

Remember…You (WE) are not “just a Foster parent.”
We are comforters in the middle of the night, when a child wakes with night tremors or wants their Mom.
We are therapists who hear the things that would break anyones heart.
We try our best to speak wise words of love and truth…when at times we are struck to complete speechlessness.
We become reporters, when a child opens up for the first time. Or there is visual evidence of wrong doing.
We are transporters as we caravan repeatedly to appointments, court dates and visitations.
We quickly become patient advocates as we seek every service and resource for a child’s medical needs.
And….We are professional child advocates as we fight for the help our child(ren) need in school, with daily tasks, or life in general.
We are often the first real example of a parent (mom or dad) and it’s imperative that these children have one.
We can improvise and change routines or plans in a split second.
We are a quick learners and we learn things about our child(ren) and…ourselves daily!
We multi task and meet the needs of our husbands, bio kids and that of your placements. (which all bring there own challenges)
We appear to be super mom to others, but often we feel alone on your mission to save the world…one child at a time.
We sit for long hours at appointments, in court, at therapy and visitations, and sometimes still work other jobs outside of the home.
We are happy doing what we are called to do despite the chaos at times.
We are creative and fun loving…
We are motivated and determined.
And…We are so much more!!

I know YOU…I am You!

You have cried in the quiet

And yelled privately at the system

You encourage yourself to keep going

And question everything you do

You have doubts

And you talk yourself out of them

You are happy with baby steps

And ecstatic with big ones

You jump for joy when you sleep all night

And you try to catch up on sleep when you don’t

You shoot to move mountains

And are satisfied when you help a molehill move

You love the smiles and laughter

And you look forward to new goals

You get discouraged when trust is broken

And you hurt when a child leaves

You prepare your bios from the loss that’s to come

And you protect and guard your own heart without even knowing

You worry about outcomes

And you wonder about plans

You love each and every crazy minute of your life

And….You love and provide so much more!!!

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!!! You are like me. And WE are like so many others. And WE are all called to love! To live life and help others to live their lives better. To make the world brighter! To make a difference and then some!

So let the difference your making be inspiring. Let your story be told.

Let your love shine brightly in 2016!

Remember, We are so much more then what the world sees as “JUST a Foster Parent”.

We are a Gift to a child..a Blessing to a hurting family… and a crucial piece of stability to a system that needs our help.

We are changing the world…

We Have Gotcha…and We Will Never Let You Go!

August 24, 2015August 24, 2015 / Susan Woodward / 12 Comments

Happy Gotcha Day!!

We Have Gotcha and We Will Never Let You Go!

You didn’t grow under my heart. You grew in it!

(A letter I wrote but never mailed to her biological mother)

Dear Bio mom,

She was your child first…and we are sorry that you were unable to care for her. We really are. I know that you love her. There is no possible way that you couldn’t. She is amazing! She is one of our greatest joys! The Love you had for her just wasn’t enough. It didn’t keep her safe, nurture her and provide for her needs.

She has your eyes and your nose. She does some things just like her siblings. And her dance moves are especially like her oldest sister. We will always remember the love and time spent with all three of your girls in our home. It was hard because the visitations became damaging, caused confusing and went on way too long…

Your oldest daughter really wanted to be with you. It was so strange the devotion and obligation she had towards you. (You, the one who hurt her) Separation and attachment disorders are so crazy. She didn’t even know how to attach to anyone but you, because of it. So, when the courts ruled, we really struggled with the decision they made for us to transition her back to you. Nineteen months in our home and then it was like a bomb went off in our hearts…And you got another chance to parent. Not all five of your children…but just one. And the struggle was and is…still real for you.

Your actions and your choices, completely rocked their entire worlds. They were so innocent…so young…so helpless. It was scary for them. What were you thinking when you left them hungry, dirty and in danger? Who did you think would keep them safe when you left them in vehicles and motels alone? Or in stranger’s homes? You made them learn to fend for themselves. They all knew many survival techniques when they were removed. They had no choice but to learn on their own…how to survive…while you lived. So selfishly.

She was sickly and confused then. She has struggled in so many ways since we opened our home and heart to her EIGHT years ago. She was a frail and extremely tiny 18 months old. You had rocked her world…over and over again.

We rocked her world too! Every night…before bed…for over two years…as we held her and sat with her into the night. We rocked her. We comforted her. We stayed awake through the tremors and the sleepless nights. We put her back in her bed over and over again…and avoided stepping on her wherever she lay in the night. We still have “all night drifting parties” often. I wonder, will she ever sleep well? But I know by God’s grace she will…

We wished we could have kept some of the doors open with you. But we knew what was best for her, and this just wasn’t an option. We were open to keeping connections with her other 3 siblings. They make her light up when she sees them. It make our hearts happy too. After all, it isn’t their fault they were separated. They did nothing to deserve what they received. We may live forever having to change that thought process in her mind. But we will do whatever it takes!

We were never here to take her away from you. We were a part of a system to help you get yourself together. We offered a safe and loving environment for 3 of your children in order for you to do so. We always work towards reunification and we will never really understand why you never accomplished that. But we forgive you. I hope and pray you learn to forgive yourself…

Our role as Foster Parents was to care for your child while you worked hard toward goals placed upon you by the court. We were here to support you and we encouraged you to reach them. Time kept slipping away…court date after court date…You never took any steps towards achieving the goals placed before you. Not even for your children.

I had felt sorry for you, because she never asked about you. But now, as she has gotten older and we have talked about you many times…I am thankful she didn’t ask more when she was younger. It seems harsh, but it is best that her memory of you is so vague. She understands it was your choices that were bad and not anything bad that she did. She also knows, accepts and understands that God has worked things out for her. She has such a forgiving and kind heart. It saddens me that you may never know her beautiful heart. One that prays for you and others.

We are thankful God spared her from even more hurt. He has worked in her favor and on her behalf many times. She is His child first…and she didn’t go through an experience of great loss. We are all she knows and remembers….and His plan has been perfectly unfolding for her all along.

I need you to know that nothing that I could have said or done would have ever helped you get your children back. The choices that you made determined her future. A future that ended up with us as her parents. It is a future of…love, family, assurance, comfort, encouragement, care, persistence, safety, devotion and hope. The greater Hope that she has is eternal. She knows who’s she is!

I want you to know I am deeply sorry that you were ever in this situation to begin with. I know you still struggle. So, we will continue to pray for you. You can still do right, make good choices and get your life together. The same Eternal Hope that she possesses is obtainable for you too through Jesus.

You chose to give Birth! That is definitely something to be proud of! You chose life for your babies! We will forever be grateful for your decision to do so. Life is always…always a gift! And one of the lives you birthed became our precious Gift!

So today…..

Eight years ago exactly…(at 2:00 pm)

The court saw it in was in your child’s best interest to have all parental rights terminated! It was a sad day for you. I know it had to be. My heart broke for you.

But it was a beautiful day for all of us…and with a broken heart, I also rejoiced!

It became her very first Gotcha Day…

And one of many more to come!

Forever grateful,

The Adoptive Mom

A Week of Camp That Never Ended

August 6, 2015August 6, 2015 / Susan Woodward / 2 Comments

What Royal Family Kids Camp is to me…(And became to our family)

It’s more than a safe, loving environment for a group of Foster Kids to enjoy a week away from their less than deserving life situations. It’s more than a fun filled, organized camp setting, suited for their many special needs. It’s more than the decorations, props and or perfectly thought out themes. It’s more than the hands on crafts, activities, pool time and fishing. It’s more than the Birthday party, talent show and fun events. It’s even more than the opportunity to overcome fears and trust unknown adults. It’s more than the laughter and tears. It’s more than the songs sung, skits watched and stories shared. It’s more than the new bibles, prayers, praise and encouragement each child receives. It’s just so much more…….

This camp is more than what any of its directors, counselors, therapists, nurses, and activity, music and service leaders could ever accomplish on their own. God has chosen the people and the campers that come. Each team member and camper is handpicked and a part of Gods amazing work and plan. Over and over again I have seen Him use team members to minister directly into a child’s life. They offer Hope, Trust and Love! God’s amazing Love that heals, ministers and transforms lives for His glory and His purpose! These things are so evident, freely welcomed, and embraced by everyone at camp. No one can escape the presence of the Lord and the Love that shines straight from the creator of all things good. It’s Gods camp!

It takes obedience from each team member as they take the first step in wanting to participate and make a difference. It takes sacrifice. Sacrifice of time, income from their jobs, and separation from family. It takes a heart willing to render to unknowns. It takes a willingness to step out of comfort zones. It takes surrendering to agenda’s and expectations. It takes an openness to allow the Lord to work however He sees fit. Team members from different walks, backgrounds and with various personalities. Yet each and every one of them is prayerfully and then carefully placed by God. As the days go by, a week at camp becomes a masterpiece that unfolds in the lives of everyone! A beautiful one designed by the hand of God. This masterpiece, and the precious moments in creating it, are engraved on everyone’s hearts forever!

Over ten years ago it became even bigger than the “one week at camp” for me and my family. It prayerfully, and out of complete obedience, became the beginning steps for my husband and I to forever step out of our comfort zones and into many unknowns. By the grace of God we made decisions that quickly became our “new lifestyle.” It has since been a daily decision and sometimes a difficult one, to change children’s lives forever. It took just one phone call to our area Department of Social Service Department. That one call made our “Beyond Royal Family” begin and it has changed our lives forever!

I guess you could say….In a way….We have daily been living a kind of “Royal Family Kids Camp.” Over and over again we have welcomed a new “Royal Family Kid” in our home, in our lives, and in our hearts forever. With every short and long term placement, every transition of a child, every emergency removal and or respite call, (Respite is an overnight break for another foster family) and with all three of our adoptions we have “lived camp”. It’s “Gods camp” in our family too!

Camp is full of many “firsts” for the kids. And believe me…we too have had many things occur for the “first time” with children in our home. God has perfectly placed children with us and given us everything we have needed in caring for and loving them. I can’t imagine life without every one of our precious Gifts! I call their names out in prayer often, and I know God is always fighting for them! He sees their needs and is working things out for them according to His plan. His plan does not include harm and is perfect for every child.

I am so thankful He chose us to be a part of so many beautiful lives….I will forever be grateful for my very first week at Royal Family Kids Camp over ten years ago. I will forever be grateful for the way it changed my families lives forever! It is a week that has never ended for us 🙂

I challenge you to step out of your comfort zone. If the Lord moves you….Go with Him! Do it prayerfully and in obedience to what the Lord is asking of you. It will always be right when it is done following after Him! Trust Him and the power of His anointing on you…You too can forever make a difference in a child’s life (and or) in others lives!

No Place To Call Home

May 4, 2015May 4, 2015 / Susan Woodward / 2 Comments

Did you know there are around 400,000 children in Foster Care in our Country?

Way too many of these children in care are in need of forever homes and may never receive one. They may grow up and into their adult lives with no place to call HOME. No place to go on holidays. Nobody to help them with life decisions. Many age out of Foster Care and have nobody to encourage them and to continue to speak life into their souls. They often lose important people in their lives over and over again and need people to instill in them that they matter! They need people to encourage them to move forward, heal and become everything the Lord has designed for them to become. They too have a divine purpose in life!

Not just this Month in MAY (The National Foster Care Month) but everyday please remember each of these children in your prayers. Also pray for the many Foster Parents and Families as they are learning every day the difficulties and also the many blessings of being obedient to the call to Foster and or Adopt. These families have chosen to reach out and reach into the heart of a child. Many of them are in daily need of your prayers and your encouragement.

Lord, open our eyes to the Hurting children around us, in our Communities, our Schools, our Churches, and our Neighborhood and in the World. They are our future and they matter. Help us to be mindful of those who may need extra encouragement, guidance and love to support and or raise their families. Help us to recognize when it is YOU dear Lord asking us to help, teach, guide or make a difference in a child’s life. May our lives reflect your goodness and may we always extend your perfect love. Give us the desire to do like Christ in every circumstance you place us in. Use us Lord in big ways to change the world, mend the hearts of the hurting, show of your great love, and always bring you the glory while furthering your kingdom! Amen

If you would like more information or want to know how YOU can support us Foster/Adopt families or become involved in Foster/Adopting yourself please feel free to message me. Don’t hesitate to move forward if the Lord has placed this on your heart. suekwoodward@yahoo.com