YES you are!!!!
To God you are “His Magnum Opus!”
YES you are!!!!
To God you are “His Magnum Opus!”
I’ve heard your pain, your hurts and your worries and I have felt them myself. Being a Foster parent is not an easy job. As a matter of fact, it’s the toughest job you’ll ever love.
Nobody fully understands what it entails and nor will they ever completely get it…unless of course, they too are given the heart to walk the hard road of fostering for themselves.
These children come in all different fashions when they arrive at our door. They can be any or all of these things when we are finally introduced. (fear filled, fragile, desperate, beaten, neglected, starving, anxious, confused, shaken, hyper, mischievous, hurtful, calm, depressed, etc.) They often face other struggles because of their life circumstances. (Attachment disorders, learning disabilities, sleep disorders, post trauma disorders, fetal alcohol syndrome, severe anxiety, processing disorders, and so on)
We don’t just open our doors and everyone blends perfectly together. We cautiously open our hearts too. And when we do that just right, so many other things start to unfold. We long to really “know them” so we can care for them just right. The unknowns about “who they are” and “what they will be like” brings on our own set of pre-placement anxieties. We wish we had all the important information upfront. And we somehow accept that we may never really know much of anything. (What have they gone through? Will we be all that they need to heal?) So many things matter in how we move forward, yet little is ever answered. We help them transition the best that we can. We set out to love unconditionally and try not to have preconceived expectations. We are on call 24/7. So therefore, we live a life of spontaneity. Organization becomes second nature and we learn quickly to utilize resources when a call comes. We usually over think things, analyze everything, and have only a handful of people (or less) that we can talk to…about everything.
The life of Fostering is a hard one. It’s exhausting emotionally and physically. It is definitely not for all. It makes our hearts ache, our heads spin and can turn things upside down in our families for awhile. But…it is desperately needed! It’s rewards are great! And it is making a difference, one child and one family at time! And in the midst of some crazy days/nights, weeks/months, and sometimes years…as we do what we are called to do…somehow, someway, the blessings manage to outweigh each and every struggle and heartache.
We may not see the progress or healing while they are in our homes, but we claim it for each child and family. We have faith and it outweighs a failing system. We cannot do it by “our power” so we trust an unfailing God and “His power” to do all things. We seek the Lord as we keep pouring out. He fills us daily, so we can keep our focus and move forward with every struggle. We pray His perfect plan unfolds in everyone of our Foster children(s) lives. And sometimes His plan is a forever home through adoption.
Remember…You (WE) are not “just a Foster parent.”
We are comforters in the middle of the night, when a child wakes with night tremors or wants their Mom.
We are therapists who hear the things that would break anyones heart.
We try our best to speak wise words of love and truth…when at times we are struck to complete speechlessness.
We become reporters, when a child opens up for the first time. Or there is visual evidence of wrong doing.
We are transporters as we caravan repeatedly to appointments, court dates and visitations.
We quickly become patient advocates as we seek every service and resource for a child’s medical needs.
And….We are professional child advocates as we fight for the help our child(ren) need in school, with daily tasks, or life in general.
We are often the first real example of a parent (mom or dad) and it’s imperative that these children have one.
We can improvise and change routines or plans in a split second.
We are a quick learners and we learn things about our child(ren) and…ourselves daily!
We multi task and meet the needs of our husbands, bio kids and that of your placements. (which all bring there own challenges)
We appear to be super mom to others, but often we feel alone on your mission to save the world…one child at a time.
We sit for long hours at appointments, in court, at therapy and visitations, and sometimes still work other jobs outside of the home.
We are happy doing what we are called to do despite the chaos at times.
We are creative and fun loving…
We are motivated and determined.
And…We are so much more!!
I know YOU…I am You!
You have cried in the quiet
And yelled privately at the system
You encourage yourself to keep going
And question everything you do
You have doubts
And you talk yourself out of them
You are happy with baby steps
And ecstatic with big ones
You jump for joy when you sleep all night
And you try to catch up on sleep when you don’t
You shoot to move mountains
And are satisfied when you help a molehill move
You love the smiles and laughter
And you look forward to new goals
You get discouraged when trust is broken
And you hurt when a child leaves
You prepare your bios from the loss that’s to come
And you protect and guard your own heart without even knowing
You worry about outcomes
And you wonder about plans
You love each and every crazy minute of your life
And….You love and provide so much more!!!
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!!! You are like me. And WE are like so many others. And WE are all called to love! To live life and help others to live their lives better. To make the world brighter! To make a difference and then some!
So let the difference your making be inspiring. Let your story be told.
Let your love shine brightly in 2016!
Remember, We are so much more then what the world sees as “JUST a Foster Parent”.
We are a Gift to a child..a Blessing to a hurting family… and a crucial piece of stability to a system that needs our help.
We are changing the world…
YOU ARE MORE….
You’re More Than Your Hard Days!
Some days you may try your best and it may not seem like it’s enough.
Some days the words you want to heal may hurt instead.
Some days you may question everything you do or lack the energy to complete it.
Some days your agenda, goals and plans may be shattered.
Some days your intentions may seem like they dont matter.
This doesn’t mean you’re a failure.
Or you should quit.
Or God is mad at you.
It just means this…
All of your days you will be human and make mistakes.
All of your days you will grow, but you will never reach perfection.
All of your days there will be grace enough for you.
All of your days will start fresh.
And with joy.
Remember that the positive always out weighs the negative in life.
Remember God never gives up on you, so never give up on yourself.
Remember everyone’s ugly can become something beautiful.
Remember there’s no test or trial or hard day the Lord can’t use for His glory.
If you let Him.
So, Keep going.
Keep moving forward.
I know it’s hard on some days. But you are MORE than those days.
At the end of all of your days, you may very well hear, “Well done, good and faithful servant.”
And that alone will make ALL the hard days you had to persevere through worthwhile.
So take a deep breath.
Keep your focus.
Remain strong in your faith.
And each night when you close your eyes, remember you are loved.
And Loved Forever.
Because You Are More Than Your Hard Days!
P -Passionately Mothering!
U -Unflinchingly keeping my eyes on the goal!
R -Regularly and richly impacting God’s word to my children!
P -Praying constantly-my heart always looking to the Lord!
O -Ordering and managing my home with diligence!
S -Saturating my husband and children with love & encouragement!
E -Embracing & nurturing all the children God has placed in my life!
Ok, maybe you can’t actually hear me roar. But, I do sometimes! I’m passionate, loud, dramatic and full of energy, as I embrace and live out my purpose!
We all have a purpose!
What’s yours? And how do you live it out?
Are YOU what you do the most of?
I mean, if you worry all the time wouldn’t you most likely become a great worrier? And If you drank continuously you’d probably become an Alcoholic. So, It’s also likely if you gossip you’ll become a fantastic gossiper. And If you complain, boast about yourself, or spend your time Lying….all day or most of the time…..Well, you get the picture right?
So, what consumes your thoughts? Your time throughout the day?
These things can positively mold you or they can negatively impact you and those closest to you.
It can confuse people and turn them away from knowing who you serve!
Only YOU can decide what you’ll become according to what you think of and do the most of.
To live Christ like and be more like Him we have to live consistently and consume ourselves with His words, thoughts and actions. We can all make a conscious effort to think more Christ Like and do better with Acting Christ like too!
When others see YOU… do they know who YOU serve?
We can all….Encourage others and become someone full and flowing with encouragement! Comfort those who need it and become a gifted comforter! Pray earnestly and faithfully often and become a prayer warrior! Welcome people into your home and become a person of warm hospitality! Love selflessly and unconditionally and others will see Christ’s love as it becomes a radiant light through you. Be kind, trust worthy and honest and you’ll hold great traits in becoming a dependable friend!
I do believe we become what we think about or do the most….
So we should choose wisely…with our thoughts….and how we spend our time.
What will your thoughts and the things you spend time doing make YOU become?
Who do others think YOU Serve?
Why settle for Ordinary when the Lord equips us to be Extraordinary!
To be ordinary mean’s that nothing unusual is happening in you or around you. Nothing different, special or impressive is stirring within you or experienced by others through your words or actions. Children of God should never seem ordinary….for they possess something deep within them that’s far greater than ordinary!!
I know, life is full of many “ordinary moments.” It’s easy to stay fixed on regular days, our comfortable surroundings and in our own little boxes. If we rest too long in the ordinary, and we are not seeking the Lord first in our lives, we can become quickly drained and unsatisfied. We can become passive with our thoughts and actions and easily loose focus on moving towards any goal or dream. If the ordinary is what we grow costume too than how could we possibly envision ourselves doing anything extraordinary? We would quickly loose motivation and get ourselves stuck in a rut. This would eventually lead us to loose determination and the ability to reach not only our small goals, but the goals and visions that are kingdom building!
Living a kind of “ordinary life” comes when we are relying on ourselves! Rely on God! You can change your ordinary!
Extraordinary living is what the Lord has intended for us, as we seek Him daily to help us fulfill daily goals and Big Visions! He allows us to go beyond what’s ordinary, comfortable or usual. He can equip us to do ALL THINGS through Him. Don’t settle for ordinary when He can show you how to live extraordinarily through His direction, guidance and power. He will greatly enhance your every effort!
Ask the Lord to help you see yourself through His eyes. He sees you as unstoppable! He sees you as beautiful, worthy, and chosen! You can go far beyond what is usual with Him on your side. Step out of the box. Take a step closer to Him and towards goals and dreams placed in your heart. Trust that He has given you amazing abilities to reach beyond what’s customary. Have a dream? Lost one? Get it back! Claim it once again and allow the Lord to direct your path in fulfilling it.
Having a life with Him as your savior is extraordinary in itself! Hold onto each of His promises and have faith that He sees you far more equipped than you will ever see yourself. So allow Him to continue to mold you as you seek Him. He will use every ounce of you that you freely give to Him….so why not give Him all?
Today! End Your Ordinary!
Claim what He sees in You!
Dream. Reach. Move.
Live life through Him to the fullest!